The G Spot Does Exist! Je Joue and Oh Megan Help You Find Yours

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Why the G-spot does exist and why every woman should be encouraged to discover more…

In response to the many flawed studies into the female G-spot,  we’ll be revealing our expert educators views on all things G-spot, 1 new question and their 5 insightful responses, each day…

In order to provide a balanced, insightful and informed guide to all things G-spot, Je Joue teamed up with North America’s leading authors, sexologists and sex educators.

1. Why are there several studies now that have

declared that the G-spot doesn’t exist?

Tristan Taormino
When you look closely, these studies are all flawed. They are based on self-reporting, which, like Violet Blue was quoted as saying, is like asking a group of men if they have a prostate. The studies also focused solely on heterosexual penis-vagina intercourse, which is not always the best way to stimulate the G-spot and did not take into account non-intercourse based sex at all.

Deborah Sundahl
Over 100 studies show that the G-spot definitely exists. The G-spot (female prostate) not only exists, but you can SEE it! Someday we will laugh to think we could not see the nose on our face. © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
First of all, a woman must be aroused in order to find her G-spot (or for anyone to find it really). Secondly, not all women enjoy G-spot stimulation – some can’t get over the feeling that they have to pee.

Megan Andelloux
First off, I always get a little thrill when researchers come out with new studies focused on sexuality. As a field, human sexuality has long been ignored by the mainstream scientific community. So no matter the findings, more research is always a good thing.

Amongst a certain breed of straight laced, button downed scientists that would like to compare the search for the G-spot to the search for the Lost City of Atlantis. They take as an assumption that the G-Spot is a mythical creature and does not exist. Whether their basis has influenced their research is unclear.

However it may be possible that the G-spot does not exist because it may not a separate structure, but merely a region of the vagina that is highly receptive to pleasure. Take for example the ear. It is a highly erogenous part of the body and many people report that the earlobe in particular is exquisitely sensitive. But if we get a room full of scientists to dissect a hundred ears, they are probably not going to find a special bundle of nerves that we could label the “E-spot”. Does that mean we should stop licking each other’s ears? Heck no! What difference does an extra cluster of nerves or special gland matter if it feels good?

Regina Lynn
I think it’s hard to study the g-spot because the pleasure itself is subjective, and because it’s hard to find participants who can truly get aroused in a lab environment.

The recent survey of identical twins — and it was a survey, not lab research, where they simply asked women if they had a g-spot or not — found that extroverted, more sex-positive women reported that they had g-spots, while women who were less enthusiastic or more private about sex reported that they did not or weren’t sure. Those responses tell us more about how women perceive sexual pleasure than they do about any particular anatomical function.

Just like some people don’t respond at all to nipple stimulation while others can orgasm from it, not every woman is going to notice or respond to g-spot stimulation.

Don’t forget that the media loves to be able to write about sex sort of sideways, without crossing the line of what you can and can’t say in family newspaper, so even the smallest graduate student experiment can become distorted through the national headlines.

2. What is the G-spot ?

Tristan Taormino
The urethra is surrounded by the urethral sponge. The urethral sponge is also known as the G-spot. The urethral sponge is made of spongy erectile tissue that contains paraurethral glands and ducts. Like the clitoris, the G-spot is not just an isolated spot of sensitivity, but part of a network of nerves, muscles, and tissue.

Deborah Sundahl
The G-spot is the female prostate.

Jamye Waxman
The G spot is technically urethral sponge. It’s a “zone” inside a woman, generally 1 to 2 inches inside the vagina, that can do wonders to enhance internal stimulation, or make you feel like you have to pee. Since you’re technically massaging the bottom wall of the urethra (you never want to enter a woman’s urethral opening) by stimulating the top wall of the vagina, you’ll want to use a little pressure. When she’s aroused and ready to get “G” revved up, the area should feel like it does if you run your tongue around the roof of your mouth. Ridgey, right?!

Megan Andelloux
The G spot is an area inside the vagina that can be stimulated to produce heightened sexual pleasure. It is located on the anterior wall of the vagina (towards the tummy) about 2 inches inside the vaginal canal.
Some medical studies suggest the G-spot is composed of clitoral structure while other studies suggest it is an area of tissue anatomically related to the male prostate.

Regina Lynn
The g-spot is an area in the vagina that can become raised and sensitized when you are aroused, so that anything penetrating you glides over it with each stroke. “Oh dear,” you might be thinking now. “All those other women are having earth-shaking orgasms, and all I have is the urge to pee!”

But that’s actually an excellent sign, because yes, that IS the spot. Now that you’ve found it, all you have to do is let go of the anxiety about wetting the bed, breathe deep, try to relax, and open up to the stimulation. It can feel vulnerable and strange when you first discover your g-spot, because it is a feeling unlike any other. But that need to pee will fade away and intense, deep waves of sensation will begin, spreading outward from your center.

3. Do all women have a G-spot ?

Tristan Taormino
Every woman has a G-spot. What varies is how women like to have their G-spots stimulated and how they experience G-spot stimulation. Some women love it, some like it, and some don’t like it at all.

Deborah Sundahl
The G-spot is the female prostate. All women have one, as do all men. © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
I can’t say that 100% of women have a G-spot, but most women have spots inside their vagina that feel great when stimulated. Whether you call it the G-spot or not, that’s up for you to decide. If it feels good and makes you go “Oh G” you’ve got it going on. Yes, most women have a G-spot, and of those women some of them like G-spot stimulation.

Megan Andelloux
While nothing in the human body happens every single time (for instance not EVERYONE is born with ears, but most people are), most people have G-spots. For many, the G-spot area can be fantastically fun to stimulate, just the ticket to hurdle the hump to have an orgasm, or be the button to push to “squirt”. Alternatively, like nipples, some people don’t enjoy the stimulation. That’s the beauty of human sexuality, there are no absolutes.

Regina Lynn
I don’t like to make sweeping statements like “all women” because of course I haven’t met all women so I can’t tell you with 100 percent certainty that this is a universal body part, just like some people never get wisdom teeth and others are born without an appendix. Even if all women do have anatomical g-spots, that doesn’t mean that all women can orgasm from stimulation of the place known as the g-spot, or even find it pleasurable.

But I can tell you this for sure: the quest is worth it for its own sake. The point is not to obsess about one particular area so much as to find your own particular responses. Worst case scenario is you find some other place — perhaps up one inch from the traditional g-spot area — that feels fantastic. Who knows, maybe you will become known as the discoverer of the LMNOP spot!

4. What is the best way to find my G-spot?

Tristan Taormino
Because the G-spot swells during arousal, the more turned on a woman is, the easier it will be to find her G-spot. If you slide one or two fingers inside the vagina, you can feel the sensitive area of the urethral sponge through the front wall. Compared to the smooth tissue of the rest of the vaginal wall, the area has a different texture. It feels wrinkled or like it has ridges.

Deborah Sundahl
The best way to find the G-spot is to understand where it is located in the body. The female prostate (G-spot) surrounds the urethral canal. It starts at the outside opening, and its 48 ducts and glands are sprinkled along the urethral canal for approximately two inches. The head of the G-spot (female prostate) surrounds the urethral opening, the body of the G-spot is just inside the vagina along the roof; this where you feel its famous ridges. The tail of the G-spot is the back end, if you will, of this organ and therefore your finger will curl around it. If you are pushing up on the roof of the vagina with finger, toy or penis, you are pushing on the G-spot (the female prostate). You cannot miss it. © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
Lay down, on your back, knees bent. Use your hands of a vibrator on your clitoris. Get warmed up. Feel aroused. Once you do, slide your finger around the entrance to your vagina. Move a finger inside, slowly, curving it as if you were trying to seduce the hottest hottie you’ve ever met. It’s that “come here, baby, I’m talking to you” motion. Use one or two fingers. Hook those curved fingers around the pubic bone, rub the top wall of the vagina. Use your fingers to stroke back or forth, or slide in and out. It’s generally about the size of a coin, and really ridgey.

Megan Andelloux
Masturbate. Privately of course, but masturbate. Do away with those pesky goals, time constraints or expectations other than the pleasure of exploring your own body.

Get turned on. After you have become aroused, place a toy (or one to two fingers) that is curved upwards, inside the vagina towards your tummy. Move your arm to make your fingers (or the toy) go forward and backwards, almost like you are scratching an itch. Some people also recommend stroking techniques like “Come hither” or using your fingers or toys to replicate ringing your friends doorbell “Ding-Dong! Here we are, G-Spot zone!

The G-spot area is located closer to the outside of the vagina (vs. deeper in). Stimulate the clitoris and the G-spot area at the same time. Focus on what your body is feeling, the sensations that are occurring.

Discovering your g-spot through masturbation is a way to claim your sexuality (you’re in control), figure out what type of stimulation you like (faster, slower, come here) and have the luxury to understand what you are experiencing without someone staring at you, which for many, can cause enough stress to reduce the ability to really feel and enjoy the sensations in their body.

Regina Lynn
Before we get to the physical exploration, let me acknowledge that there is a mental component to finding this pleasure zone. For one thing, there’s that worry about peeing, if you have tried to play with your g-spot before. For another, the media hype around the g-spot can actually feel like pressure, like if you don’t find yours right now and have Richter-scale orgasms, you are somehow defective or behind the times.

We do not want you to feel anxious! Take a deep breath and relax. You don’t have to orgasm on the first try. You don’t even have to like it the first time. Just be willing to open up and explore, and remember that this is about feeling good and having fun. There is no final exam.

On to the physical. You can experiment on your own and with partners, with fingers and toys and harnesses, and even with an erection if you happen to have one handy in the house.

The g-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, within reach of your fingertips. The g-spot feels rougher and even “ridged” compared to the rest of the vaginal wall. If you press on it, you will likely feel some sensation in your bladder. Once you have located the spot, the fun stuff begins, as you try different types of stroke, speed, and pressure to find out what feels best to you.

5. How is the G-spot linked to female orgasm?

What is a G-spot orgasm?

Tristan Taormino
Sexologists and researchers classify orgasms in various ways, like the clitoral orgasm, the blended orgasm, or the G-spot orgasm. But it puts us in tricky territory. You can’t simply say ‘this is a G-spot orgasm,’ because G-spot stimulation techniques can vary and the orgasm you have from fingers, a toy, or a penis can all feel different from one another. Some women ejaculate from G-spot stimulation and say that it’s another kind of orgasm for them. I prefer to talk about the many different ways women can experience pleasure that can lead to orgasm. Can women experience orgasm from G-spot stimulation? Absolutely! G-spot stimulation—alone or combined with clitoral stimulation—is one of the many paths toward female orgasm. Many women can also experience indirect G-spot stimulation through anal penetration and have an orgasm that way.

Deborah Sundahl
The G-spot has a different nerve than the clitoris, and therefore a different orgasmic sensation – one of deep, melting love. This G-spot orgasm can be deeply physical and usually felt throughout the body. The G-spot orgasm is loud and wild, and often creates female ejaculation. The G-spot orgasm is emotional by nature and feels like love. An emotional and loving orgasm that connects a woman to her partner is something most women have been looking for all their life. Sport sex is fun and useful to experience; but learning that the G-spot is tailor made for love and connection – and relaxation –  is really the big news about the G-spot. The G-spot is the literal heart of female sexuality, and this the main reason why learning all about the G-spot and its orgasm and its ejaculate is essential knowledge for both men and women. © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
I’m not a doctor, but I believe that the G-spot is connected to the large network of the clitoris and is part of the clitoral cluster. Therefore, the G-spot can be aroused by the same nerve endings as the clitoris and produce orgasms. Men and women have the same amount of erectile tissue, just laid out differently, so the G-spot is female erectile tissue and as we get aroused and engorged we can get off. A G-spot orgasm is an orgasm (orgasm is technically a series of rhythmic contractions) that originates in the area where the G-spot is located.

Megan Andelloux
Orgasm. Gotta love them! So many different types, ways to have one, determination to have one, more, more, more! G-Spot stimulation can help a lady have an orgasm, but not always. You can enjoy some fantastic vibrations on the g-spot and have an orgasm or you may not. Touching the G-spot does not mean you are going to cum.
The G-spot is intimately connected to clitoral structure. This connection can lead to G-spot orgasms, which are also known as vaginal orgasms. (I know, why can’t we just pick one name for female bodied structures and stick with it?) Internal stimulation leads to an entirely different sensation than external stimulation of that tiny locus of pleasure, the clitoris. Touch the outside; get sharp, fast, intense orgasms. Touch the inside: get deep, throbbing, full bodied orgasms.

Regina Lynn
The g-spot contributes to female orgasm like any other erogenous zone, with its own special sensations and sensitivity. And like other aspects of female sexuality, the sensation can change from day to day, minute to minute, partner to partner. I suppose that can be frustrating but I like to think about it as a delicious variety, an opportunity to try all the different spices of life.

6. What if a woman really can’t find her G-spot?

Is the G-spot easier to find with age or sexual

experience?

Tristan Taormino
First, I think that people are often looking for some magic place that when touched will create fireworks or opera music. You have to have realistic expectations and know that some women’s G-spots are more sensitive than others. Some women have stimulated the urethral sponge through the lower front wall of the vagina and just don’t find it that, well, stimulating. That’s okay—not every woman likes G-spot stimulation.

Deborah Sundahl
If a woman can’t find her G-spot that usually means she cannot feel it. Unfortunately, not being able to feel the G-spot is common to too many women. Woman cannot feel it because it is numbed out due to the way we make love in western culture, which is to ram this ultra sensitive organ and often before it is even ready. Most men cringe when they think of their prostate being rammed with a dido. A woman’s G-spot, and therefore her vagina, is alive with sensation! Woman can learn to reawaken the natural sensitivity of their G-spots. 
Sexual comfort and experience with our bodies, in our relationships and in public discussion creates an ease with learning and expressing sexuality. Learning about sexuality and what we like as unique, erotic individuals and expressing that promotes health and overall well-being, including a stable relationship.  The G-spot is, therefore, easier to find and feel if you are comfortable with your body and with sexuality; age has very little to do with it but experience helps a lot. The G-spot is physically alive and well from youth through old age. © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
If a woman can’t find her G-spot she can try using a sex toy. There are ones, like the G-ki that make it easier to hit the spot (you can get tired if you are using your fingers). The G-spot is easier to find when you know your own body, that’s the bottom line.

Megan Andelloux
It’s porn’s fault. Heck, everyone else seems to be ‘hating’ on porn so why don’t I just jump on the bandwagon. A careful study of pornography tells us that when a g-spot is stimulated, instantaneous orgasms, exploding rockets, and erupting oil wells will follow. Unfortunately, for millions of vexed women, the reality is a little different. When most people first discover their G-spot, it makes them feel like they have to pee. Because this urge to pee isn’t talked about, when G-spot owners don’t find the Staples “That was easy” button, they assume they are in the wrong spot.
Aging can have benefits! Some people have an easier time discovering their G-spot as they age because they feel more sexually connected to their body. Shame and guilt can interfere with enjoying what G-spot stimulation can bring. As many people age, they grow beyond the inhibitions of their youth. It’s not necessarily easier to locate the G-spot due to age or sexual experience, but more so because we become more comfortable exploring and enjoying our bodies.

Regina Lynn
I think a lot of things about sex get easier and more fun with time and experience. What’s that saying about youth and energy being no match for age and cunning?

I don’t know if we learn to accept our bodies and appreciate our sexuality more as we get older or if we just get too tired to waste time worrying about things we can’t change.

If you really can’t find your g-spot, or don’t take especial pleasure in having it stimulated, I wouldn’t let it get you down. I certainly would hate to see you get obsessed with any one particular spot or sensation that you think you “should” have but don’t. Certainly there are plenty of other places on your body that can stand in, right? Maybe you can declare one of those places your own personal g-spot.

7. What is the connection between the G-spot and

the prostate?

Tristan Taormino
The G-spot and the prostate are formed from the same embryonic tissue and have lots of similar properties, which is why some people call the G-spot “the female prostate.” Like the prostate, the G-spot swells and fills with fluid during arousal; the fluid, called female ejaculate, is very similar to prostatic fluid from the prostate.

Deborah Sundahl
The G-spot is the female prostate. © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
All fetuses are formed from the same genetic material, male and female genitals are homologous. Women don’t have a prostate, although the skene’s glands is being called the female prostate, and a man’s g-spot is his prostate, so it just depends on what you want to call it and how you identify.

Megan Andelloux
This connection is unclear, unknown and remains to be explored. There are wild hypotheses that make some remote embryological connections between the two, but these are speculation at best. But from a strictly functional standpoint, both of these regions are reached in the same manner: insertion in your respective orifice, tilt towards the tummy, and rub.

Regina Lynn
Both are known to be erogenous zones that produce intense, deep sensations in the body for those who open up to the stimulation. Both are internal and require some exploration to find the best way to stroke, tease, and tantalize them.

8. Why are there so many toys designed for G-spot

stimulation and what makes the G-Ki different

from other toys?

Tristan Taormino
The G-spot has come into popular consciousness and companies have seized on the opportunity to make toys for a subject that seems to be covered in women’s magazines ad nauseum. The problem is that a lot of these toys are made of crappy materials (like soft PVC with phthalates) and don’t work with women’s anatomy or aren’t even tested on women. The G-Ki is well-designed and made of top quality materials; a tremendous amount of thought went into the shape, design, and technology. It will last a long time unlike many cheaper, inferior toys. Everyone’s anatomy is slightly different so the fact that the G-Ki is adjustable is just fantastic. Plus, it works as a toy for masturbation (it’s easy to hold and use) and for partnered sex.

Deborah Sundahl
The G-Ki’s creators and makers know where the G-spot is located. Je Joue has created the G-Ki to assist women with finding and feeling their G-spots. There are as many G-spot toys designed for the G-spot as there are incorrect opinions about where the G-spot is located. With some of these toys, it can even feel as though the toy reflects the ambivalence of the maker’s feelings toward the G-spot as fact or fiction.

Most women feel G-spot sensation on the tail of the G-spot. The G-Ki’s head fits behind the tail of the G-spot and heightens the G-spot sensations there.  The G-Kialso works well as a massager on the G-spot’s ridged body. When kneeling, the weight of the G-Ki provides added sensation on the tail without being heavy or slipping out. The G-Ki has a light and graceful handle which feels easy and comfortable to wear and to use. The G-Ki’s unique feature is its adjustable curvature, which adds to or softens sensation on the G-spot. Because of the G-Ki’s knowledgeable and targeted G-spot design, it provides effective yet elegant sensation; there is no wondering and working with the G-Ki – it puts you immediately in touch with your G-spot.  © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
What I love about the G-Ki is that you can actually program it to fit your body because it’s adjustable! You can move the toy in two spots so that you find the right angle for your pleasure. I love that it’s rechargeable and made of material I can trust for my body and really for everybody.

Megan Andelloux
How does the saying go? So many toys, so little time? Different strokes for different folks… Ah yes, there are so many different sensations because people experience things differently. Do you like gentle or firm or gentle pressure? Do you prefer pin-point accuracy or diffuse stimulation? Would you ride the vibrations or is that just a distraction? Do you need clitoral stimulation at the same time you press inward? All of these questions should be asked (and more importantly explored) to help you decide what type of g-spot loving you want to receive.

The G-Ki offers many of these variations in one compact little unit. Variation of vibration, rounded tip, owner control with the degree of pressure delivered, medically sound materials that are hypoallergenic (and waterproof) and yet, still friendly for our planet. Yes the G-Ki is even green. With variation of colors to boot, the G-Ki gives G- spot enthusiasts a lot to celebrate.

Regina Lynn
Many toys claim to be designed to stimulate the g-spot that actually aren’t. In those cases, the g-spot is a convenient marketing term for any toy that has a curve or bump in the part of the toy that penetrates the vagina.

However, the G Ki developers actually studied 10,000 women so they could design a toy that is not only lovely but also functional. It is adjustable so you can find the right angle for your own body. And it is designed to stimulate the clitoris at the same time, as most women do not come from g-spot stimulation alone.

9. What positions are easiest to find my G-spot in?

Tristan Taormino
By yourself, I recommend laying on your back since it really helps to relax you. With a partner, I suggest a position I call “Missionary Fold,” where you lay on your back with your legs up either folded back and against your shoulders or your legs up on your partner’s shoulders. Because this position is face to face, it allows for eye contact, verbal and non-verbal communication, and easy access to your vulva.

Deborah Sundahl
Simply sit down in front of a large mirror, spread your labia lips, and push out with your vaginal muscles, and see your own G-spot!  Reclaim this lovely, alive, fully functioning, heart of female sexuality that some people say does not exist! Find yours and love her! © 2010 Deborah Sundahl

Jamye Waxman
I love missionary, with my legs high in the air, or on my partner’s shoulders, but a good cowgirl or reverse cowgirl can do the trip too.

Megan Andelloux
Whatever position that works best for you! Really, it’s more about what feels good than what some manual or expert says. So grab a good old game of Twister and take your clothes off. Get in different positions and see what works best for your g-spot, your mind, and you. So while The ‘Backward’s Froggy’ position may be the bee’s knee’s right now, what’s even hotter is watching someone who is having a gut wrenching, spine tingling, full on g-spot orgasm in missionary position!

Regina Lynn
If you are solo, any position where you can reach inside and press toward the front of your body will help. I did most of my self-exploration in the bath tub, where I could be naked, weightless, and warm.

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